get the best of sb./sth.困难

In his 1936 work How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie wrote: “There is only one way... to get the best of an argument — and that is to avoid it.” This aversion to arguments is common, but it depends on a mistaken view of arguments that causes profound problems for our personal and social lives — and in many ways misses the point of arguing in the first place.

戴尔·卡耐基在其1936年的著作《人性的弱点》中写道：“只有一种方法……能在争论中占上风——那就是避免争论。”这种对争论的反感很普遍，但它基于一种对争论的错误看法，这种看法给我们的个人生活和社会生活造成了深刻的问题——而且在很多方面根本没有抓住争论的意义所在。